Selfishness vs Self-Sabotage, Part One

We live in an insane culture and society. That is not my opinion, that is a physiological fact. It is important to understand how and why that statement is true because it affects the health and the structural relationships within our bodies, and thus our clients’ bodies. One of many perspectives to understand this is looking at the concept of selfishness versus the reality of self-sabotage.

Selfishness gets a bad rap. Selfishness means I am looking to get the most for myself. Let’s use money for this discussion, but any desirable human condition – love, advancement, security, all will apply. If I am seeking more money from you, our culture and society suggest that, after I seek honest means of getting more, such as selling you something, that I lie, cheat and/or steal. Our culture and society lead us to believe that is selfishness. I am suggesting that is not selfishness, it is self-sabotage. If I lie, cheat, or steal from you, at some point you will probably figure it out, and then I’m done, I’m finished relative to you. Not only will you not have financial dealings with me, you will warn others if the subjects of money and me come up.

Also, this attitude and perspective comes from a position of lack, of scarcity, of not-enough. No matter how much wealth I accumulate, it will never feel like enough. It inherently cannot, not from that perspective. A sense of satisfaction either cannot be attained, or at most be fleeting, and a sense of satisfaction is a universal human goal and desire.

If I am truly selfish and would like the most money I can get from you, I figure out how I can hook you up with more money. Is there someone I can introduce you to who is good for your business? Is there any advice or resource I know of that may be of financial benefit to you? When I can accomplish this, I probably have you for life. You will hook me up with more money whenever you have the opportunity. That is true selfishness; true selfishness requires that I consider others, be it people or circumstances.

Notice how nicely this fits with the concept of true abundance: to be truly abundant show yourself to be a source of abundance. Many of us have come across that idea. Another way of stating it is, if I am causing others to become more abundant, I must of course be abundant. If I cause others to become more prosperous, I must of course be a source of prosperity. In truth, demonstrating oneself to be the source of anything assures the experience of it. There may be a time lapse between the two, although with commitment and single-mindedness the experience always happens presently. Also, from this perspective and with this experience, a sense of satisfaction is the natural result.

Next: the physiology of these two perspectives, true selfishness vs self-sabotage. Peace and love.


One comment on “Selfishness vs Self-Sabotage, Part One

  1. Love your philosophy that really rings so true (you really have a gift in presenting it), and why massage is more than just about muscles, fascia, soft titssue, etc. – it really affords people the opportunity to get in touch with their authentic self… at least the doorway is open for that to occur. The way we carry ourselves as therapists can really provide our clients with a respite or safe haven from this “insane culture and society” – if only for an hour session or so… hopefully that hour can have a ripple effect that undulates outward to have a far-reaching within our society.

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